Tame a Free Spirit....?

Have you met someone who's fiercely independent, or just loves everything that's out of the ordinary, and yearn for their devotion? The key to sharing a wild soul is to make him or her feel like they can be freer with you than with anybody else. Here's how to have that free spirit eating out of your hand, willingly and happily.

STEPS

1. ''Get your priorities straight.'' What do you want most out of the relationship? Think about what your top three expectations are: Commitment? Respect? Honesty? Affection? Companionship? Passion? Security? Stability? A free spirit is not the kind to twist and turn to meet your every need (although some can at times, once they feel they can completely trust you). You'll have to make it simple for them by coming to an understanding of what you want ''most'' out of a relationship and asking for that, and nothing else.
2. ''Don't sweat the small stuff.'' Things like punctuality, precautions, and any other kind of minor limit or inhibition will be of no concern to an independent mind. They like to flow through life, following their whims - and this often makes them extremely creative and fascinating individuals, which is what probably attracted you to them in the first place. By imposing dams, as little as they may be, you could very well suffocate the qualities that make this person desirable to you, if you don't manage to scare them off first.
3. ''Choose your battles wisely.'' Don't nitpick. If they're 15 minutes late and you end up missing a movie, roll with the punches and see the next one. But if they're 45 minutes late to pick you up in the middle of the night in a bad neighborhood, that's serious. In general, if it doesn't directly threaten the priorities you established in Step 1, then let it go and just enjoy the ride.
4. ''Avoid setting rules.'' Restrictions are like chains, and will send this wild horse running towards the horizon. Instead of saying, "Don't ever cheat on me," say "You'd be a complete idiot to risk losing such an awesome person like me just so you could get a little extra on the side."
5. ''Get to know the person inside out.'' Study their tendencies, their quirks, their deepest desires, and their worst fears. Always be accepting and open-minded. Knowledge is power. The better you know this person, the less you'll feel the need to control them. Moreover, he or she will sense this and feel like you're the only person who truly knows them and thus, the only person they can be their uninhibited selves around. To a free spirit, this is the jackpot.
6. ''Give them the benefit of the doubt.'' A person who values his or her independence will truly test your ability to trust. You need to determine early on whether or not you trust this person, and then trust them ''completely.'' Sure, you might get burned, but you also might capture the heart of a person that no one else could touch.
7. ''Get in touch with your own free spirit.'' Don't sit at home, wondering what he or she is doing, or when they're going to call. Get in your car and take a road trip. Visit an old friend. Watch a new movie. Taste a different kind of food. Your free spirit will respect you for it, and feel a sense of kinship with you when you both get home and recount your adventures.
8. ''Appreciate their free-spiritedness.'' The number one condition that all free spirits demand of their relationships is acceptance. If you don't accept the free spirit, the free spirited person takes that as an assault on his/her freedom. If you accept them exactly as they are and place no expectations/conditions on them, then they can trust you. And only in trust can a relationship develop. Just remember that independence is something to be appreciated, not just tolerated, you'll be giving a free spirit exactly the kind of nourishment that it needs.

TIPS *Free spirits don't like the idea of being judged. Once you start judging them, they feel it's a personal attack and will back off and may even vanish so be careful with your words and actions. But once you meet him/her on the same level (learn to accept them) they can become the most extraordinary individual you ever met.

*Don't try to change him or her. This is a classic mistake, in any kind of relationship, but ''especially'' when you're dealing with a rugged individual.

*Give them time to themselves and to their projects. Independent individuals tend to have a burning need to progress alone - sometimes you have to let them go down a path by themselves and just let them know you'll be there for them when they get to the end.

CHANGE.....a person?

change 
verb. 

1.      a. To cause to be different: 

b. To give a completely different form or appearance to; transform: 

2. To give and receive reciprocally; interchange: 

3. To exchange for or replace with another, usually of the same kind or category: 

YOU can change YOUr, thoughts, YOUr image, YOUr interests, YOUr life...YOU can't change someone else. 


Change the imprint=change the essence.


Conform to whom? 
There is noONE.
There is life.


LIVE it


as


U-niquely YOU-th

like LOVErs do

love

 

–noun

1.

a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

2.

a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

3.

sexual passion or desire.

4.

a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

5.

affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.

There is a paradise that can be found
A better life to bring us round
And all we really need to do
Is see the world like lovers do

I want to take it easy, take it slow
To catch a fire and let it go
I wanna give myself to you
So we can live like lovers do...

Think.

Think.

Few things possess more Power than a Thought.

Because a Thought has the potential
to become something significant.
To solve something meaningful.
And to inspire us to achieve great things.

What makes a Thought so powerful
is that it can be created by anybody.
At anytime.
From anywhere.

That's why Thinking should be encouraged
and nurtured in all its forms.
No matter how small.
Or how impossibly grand.

Because wherever Thinking happens,
Big Ideas follow.
Minds become enlightened.
Knowledge grows.
And people discover new ways to unlock their
Potential.

So start THINKING.

U-niquely YOU-th

Considered a youth myself by today's standards, I can't help but wonder if my generation has lost touch with the YOU in Unique...

u·nique (y-nk)
adj.
1. Being the only one of its kind.
2. Without an equal or equivalent; unparalleled.
3. YOU

It all comes down to stories.

My story is my own interpretation of the life I've lead thus far.

Your story is your own rendition of the life you've lead thus far.

Our story makes us one and the same fundamentally: we're all human.

Not much to be debated.

So where does the monster dubbed "society" fit into this picture? Society isn't a noun.  It doesn't breath, eat, or live. This "society" we conform to has no face or personality, it's an enigma of ideas and beliefs constructed through inherently fake ideals and false information created by....whom?

I'll tell you a story:

Seed=concept

One day a farmer stands at the edge of his tilled land, staring at the acres of soil that is eager and ready to absorb what the farmer has to offer.  After a thoughtful moment, the farmer reaches into his pocket and produces a seed. He considers the seed and the effects it will have on the vast openness of the vulnerable land.  Then without a second thought, he bends down and plants the seed at his feet.  He waters the earth and allows the sun's ray's to penetrate the ground. Soon, the seed begins to sprout.  Roots begin to take hold. The seed becomes a seedling. The seedling strives to grow. It reaches up and out of the earth, waiting eagerly and patiently at the farmer's feet ready to produce. And produce it does.  Soon fruit begins to sprout, dropping in abundance. As the fruit falls, they break open and more seeds fall out, mixing into the empty soil all around.  Roots begin to take hold and before long, more seedlings begin to emerge, and the vast emptiness becomes abundant with new life and growth, each a replica of it's seedling sibling before.

One gorgeously sunny day, a vagabond comes wondering into the land of the farmer and see's the beautiful acres of lush green plants and beautiful fruit lying in abundance right before him.  The vagabond is hungry, he hasn't eaten in days and is eager for some nourishment.  Without thinking to question the Farmer, the vagabond reaches out and plucks the first ripe fruit he see's from the vines of the supple plant and takes a bite into the beautiful white flesh of the fruit, munching happily while  thinking, "Oh what luck for me to find such abundance of luscious fruit and to enjoy it in such a beautiful setting!"

 The vagabond devours the fruit and reaches for another, and then another.  As he finishes his third piece of fruit, something inside him begins to feel strange.  His stomach suddenly cramps and his limbs go numb with unyielding pain. The vagabond keels over and falls to the ground at the roots of the beautiful plant, reaching up toward the sun. As the numbness begins to spread and the pain starts to take over, the vagabond cries out in sorrow.  The farmer, hearing his cries, finds the vagabond bent over in agony and stares down at him without a trace of emotion.  The vagabond addresses the farmer with hateful remorse as he realizes he's dying:
"Pray tell Farmer, why would you plant acres of poisonous fruit and not warn of the dangers when you know quite well that men and animals frequent these lands?"
Without hesitation the farmer merely answers:
"What fate lies in store for the trusting fool who blindly assumes, without question, that all things are exactly as they appear to be."

“The power to question is the basis of all human progress.” ~Gandhi

it's all in your head

quite frequently lately I've been dubbed the "free spirit."

I can't help but smile each time I hear it.

Images of wild horses prancing and galloping through a grassy knoll.

A gentle breeze ruffling the leaves of trees.

Birds gliding carelessly, floating on the tips of the wind.

White, puffy clouds in a clear blue sky.

These are my images of free spirits.

I strive to reach those ranks.

What do you see?

free spirit

free spirit

-noun

One who is not restrained, as by convention or obligation; a nonconformist.

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/free+spirit

free spirit

-noun

a person with a highly individual or unique attitude, lifestyle, or imagination; nonconformist.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/free+spirit

free spirit

-noun

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